Pride Vs. Pry

N asked to talk but never followed through after agreeing to when. There are two natural reactions in this type of situation:

1) Let it go and hope he takes the high road to explain what happened. Questions may stay unanswered, but at least your pride remains intact.

2) Take another step and ask why he bailed. You'll likely get some answers but at the risk of appearing to pry into his personal space.

Which would you choose -- pride or pry?

Maybe this is neither here nor there because with or without conversation, I've gotten my answers. He planned to talk but didn't, and then he didn't care to explain why. Actions (or lack thereof) speak louder than words.

Silence speaks louder than words.

Fools Rush In

Have you ever had something you should have said to one person but told other people instead, so all at once you weren't saying enough and already saying too much?

There's this guy -- "N" -- and without a word to him, I've managed to put my foot in my mouth. N's the type of guy you feel you need a guard against, the type you want to proceed with caution. Not because he's a bad guy, but because you have better luck reading a brick. With guys like N, it's wise not to jump the gun and put yourself in a vulnerable position. Only fools rush in.

So am I a fool, because I rushed in, I jumped the gun and I put myself in that vulnerable position. I was so wrapped up in how to act around him that I let myself go around them. To them, I saw myself say too much too soon, like an out-of-body experience and I was powerless to stop myself. Now I'm powerless to their inquisitive questions and the risk that I'll once again speak out of turn.